Ideologies

I know this may be a little far fetched.. But had any one really thought about war? A three letter word (in the English dictionary)  containing two ideologies, hundreds die and millions of dollars needed for repair. Why do hundreds upon thousands die for two people’s ideologies.
We all have them and can’t think without them and once we leave one we enter into another. Our identify are based of ideologies. For instance boys get blue blankets and girls get pink it even starts before the mirror stage, before language and symbols. Our name is the first introduction into labels of ideologies into society. We don’t even get to chose. The next is religion or whatever your parents believe and  so forth. Back to my point though in understanding that not two people are the same and we’re born with the same upbringing and may or may not have the same mind thought, why can’t that be excepted and grow a deeper understanding of each individual and learn what they have to broaden horizons?
Instead nations have gone to war, lost people: father’s sons mothers daughters and so on for two people’s disagreements.
Why don’t two adults who are in charge of the happiness and freedom of their people.  Sit down and have a logical and rational discussion with third party board members and look out the outcome. Now we have nukes and chemical were far that could wipe out the human population in little under a week. How idiotic is that to nuke people over disagreements of two nations ideologies.
I thought we were ration mind and thought beings but I must be wrong. I went back and looked at an identity paper I wrote in an upper division course a few years back and just had a need to regurgitate what I wrote because a nation is a part of an identity and the ideologue it brings. I just have a hard time looking back at history and seeing so many deaths and villages to towns to countries being destroyed. It saddens me so to believe that people could do this. Then again it also sickens me that people would elect certain people that are sociopaths. But that’s politics and I won’t touch on that because politics are as dumb as the day is long. I have read so many books and theories and philosophies on politics and one that I can look back on is Pluto’s allegory of the cave and letters to the Republic X and it was brilliant but unlike Plato I think art and poetics are important. Just a few word for thought but I have a different ideology than most.